Seeking therapy can be uncomfortable. Ask for help, reach out to a therapist for counseling and address issues that create negative impact in your life.
When first meeting with a new client one of the most important questions I ask is “how long have you been feeling this way?” Often times there has been a silent struggle for months, and sometimes years. Asking for help is uncomfortable and for most of us challenging. While asking for advice on what to eat for dinner feels easy, asking for help related to personal matters is difficult. We often don’t want to disclose that we’re not managing life as well as we’d like to.
Misconceptions and Advocating for Your Mental Health
A big misconception in asking for help is feeling as though you’re admitting defeat, or that you’re too weak to handle issues on your own. We live in an individualistic society where we’re taught to be self-sufficient and independent. Instead of relying on others (family, friends, and our greater community), we tend to put the onus on ourselves to fix problems that arise.
When it comes to our mental health, we oftentimes try to manage our own problems, doing the best we can. Sometimes we can manage and things sort themselves out. Other times stress and anxiety continue to build, creating greater, more serious difficulties.
Some people have awesome support systems, including their friends and family, whom they turn to in difficult times. Although turning to those you trust the most can be helpful, it does not guarantee the type of understanding and validation that may be warranted. What I see a lot in my practice is that the person going through difficulties does not want to “burden” those closest to them with their problems. This creates the paradigm of needing help and not asking!
If you’ve stumbled across this post, you may be facing depression, anxiety, or stress – all of which are making it difficult to enjoy life and impacting your everyday functioning at work, school, or home. This is when you know you should seek the help of a professional – there has been a significant impact on your overall functioning. This leads us to the most difficult action of asking for help from a professional (who is also a stranger) and includes a fee. Seeking out the help of a professional counselor does not mean you’re “crazy.”
Counselors assist regular people who are experiencing a negative impact on their life from a serious issue or problem they’re currently facing. It can be helpful to know that the person you’re asking for help from has undergone extensive training in order to assist you in better management of your life stressors.
Remember: It takes a person with strength and insight to their problems to ask for help. Asking for help is never a sign of weakness.
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